Infertility: Between Marriage and Divorce?
While different countries around the world have different laws on divorce, I believe one of the saddest scenarios is when a relationship is severed because one of the couple is found to suffer from infertility. Yes, some countries actually allow divorce due to infertility. Worse, many of these countries have unequal treatment between genders.
In some African countries, where a woman’s worth is measured by her reproductive performance, it is overwhelmingly depressing to note that the husband can divorce his wife when he can prove that she is infertile, but this does not apply the other way around. Women who cannot bear children are often ostracized while their husbands are allowed to find another woman who can give them children.
Marriage is the union of two people who vowed to love each other “in sickness and in health, for better or for worse”. While I agree that one of the purposes of marriage is procreation, I also believe that this is not the only reason.
Confining marriage to such a limiting concept overlooks its more important value, and that is love. Marriage means, among other things, growing together as husband and wife, accepting each other’s strengths and weaknesses, being each other’s best friend, and loving forever.
People must not miss the main essence of marriage and all the other beautiful things that come with it. While a child is truly a wonderful blessing, we must start to realize that finding our one true love is a great blessing in itself.
Did I just sound like a hopeless romantic back there? :D Well, this is my take on the matter. I would love to hear your side. Join the discussion in the Test Country Forum.
I opened an interesting thread with the title “Should couples undergo fertility tests before marriage?” You can post replies or start new threads. See you there!Tags: fertility, health, infertility, woman